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It's interesting how all
new relationships start out with a sexual "bang" (pardon
the pun). The
couple literally can not keep their hands off each
other. Lots of sex. Lots of smiling. Lots of giggling.
Lots of love.
But the most amazing
thing is how some couples KEEP the passion alive
throughout the entire relationship, while other couples
never fix the problem.
Today, we'll discuss a
very important concept that was never mentioned in the
book. Why women stop wanting to have sex.
I have one basic rule:
If you want to learn how
to get the passion back in your relationship, make sure
you listen to someone who actually did it, because there
is no shortage of people trying to sell you information
on this topic.
Tip #1: Are you taking
her for granted?
Although this is common
advice for fixing the relationship, here's the
interesting side of it.
When I'm consulting a guy
about fixing his sex life, I always like to ask him two
questions.
Are you taking her for
granted? He normally say "No. Not at all."
Then I'll ask: "Does she
THINK you are taken her for granted?" And normally,
he'll say "Yes. She THINKS I am.
It's not about the guy's
perspective, it's about hers!
That's like saying: "She
thinks she doesn't want to have sex with me, when she
rejects me for sex..."
If you want to fix your
sex life with your partner, the first thing you need to do is find out if
she THINKS you are taking her for granted. Most guys are surprised
at what they hear.
Here's the reality.
Taking her for granted get's old, after a while.
Make her feel just as
important now as the day you both met by telling her how
much you appreciate her and all that she does for you.
99% of guys are not
trained to understand how women process information, so
they're always shocked when she ends up leaving him,
cheating on him or something worse.
I don't think that guys
should just tell their partners they appreciate her.
They should take the time to experience the feeling of
appreciation first, then tell her. This is something
that can be done tonight.
Observe her response.
If you can't get her face
to light up with a "comment of deep appreciation", don't
expect to become the most desirable guy she has ever
experienced.
Let's talk about another
common thing that guys do that almost guarantees that
she won't want sex - ever!
Don't ever become this
type of guy by doing this "common thing".
Another Common Thing
The hidden "danger" of being logical during arguments
Most guys enjoy
presenting "logic" whenever an argument breaks out, so
that becomes the unspoken goal. However, they fail to
see things from her perspective. This, of course, is a
totally different goal from trying to be as logical as
possible. It's often the difference between being the
"most desirable man she has ever experienced" and "a guy
who want to win the argument" by showing her why he is
right.
Here's the "tricky
reality". If you're looking for logic to support your
perspective, you will find it 100% of the time.
If you feel that you are
right all of the time, then you'll definitely need to
"let her win" a few times just so you don't end up
making her feel as though her "perspective on life"
doesn't matter to you.
It may feel weird, but
think about it. Her perspective on life represents her
reality. Obviously, her reality is going to be
different, because she is a different person. So if she
doesn't FEEL as though you value her perspective, then
you are "neglecting her" on the deepest level
imaginable. This is a dangerous mistake! Getting her
aroused is all about triggering her emotions on a deep
level that feels real to her.
Constant arguing puts a
strain on relationships. Arguing only to win or state
your point without taking your woman's opinion
seriously, can make her feel inferior very fast. Allow
yourself to argue respectably as you listen intently to
what she says. Train yourself to go through this
process, even if it feels unnatural or unmanly.
Not only will making-up
be more enjoyable, but you will not be making the same
silly mistakes that 95% of frustrated guys make.
Turning Things
Around...
When it comes to being
desirable to a woman, it all comes down to your ability
to make her feel special. Let's rephrase that.
It's all about your
ability to make her feel special - at the right time.
You see, most guys are capable of doing an above average
job at knowing how to make a woman feel special. In
fact, most guys are too good at it and they often end up
over-doing it. Let's talk about the number one
"emotionally important" trait that all Super Desirable
Men possess.
Trait #1 Timing.
In other words, he is
there when she needs him. Let's face it, with life,
there are ups and downs. When times are rough, REAL
"sexy men" are by their woman's side the way she needs
him to be. He shows her that he is there for her during
the good times and bad times. He knows how to make her
feel as though everything will be fine. When your woman
is going through a troubling situation, don't leave her
to fight it out on her own.
Although, you may think
it's best if she "toughs" it out, it's important to be
there for her. Many women feel extremely alone when she
has to go through a tough situations alone. Just knowing
that you are there is enough to make her feel good. Show
her that you are with her every step of the way. And
during the happy times, celebrate with her.
As a simple rule, it's
all about having fun with her during the good times and
making her feel supported during the bad times. Don't
make the huge mistake of assuming she can get through it
herself, just because YOU would be fine in that
situation.
Warmly,
CR James
I hope you enjoyed the report. If you want to learn
the Secret Info about increasing your sexual value,
then I recommend you read
Super Sex Power: Magnetism
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