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The Male Matrix and Masculine Energy Spectrum
-by Luigi Di Serio

The Male Spectrum divides men into 4 basic categories:  The Wussy/Geek, The Metrosexual, The Macho Man and The Real Man, comparing them against a variety of virtues and traits. 

Overall, this list gives a sense of what a “real man” ought to be like.

Virtue/Trait

Wussy/Geek

Metrosexual

Macho Man

Real Man

Personality

Passive

Flakey

Aggressive

Stern

Bravery
 

Cowardly

Worrisome

Reckless

Courageous

Social “face”  

Timid

Relaxed

Obnoxious

Approachable

Labour  

Workaholic

For The Money

Lazy

Gets the job done

Generosity  

Giver

Cheap/Selective

Taker

Compromises

Physical Prowess  

Push-Over

Reactive

Abusive

Honourable

Sexuality  

Restrained

Eager to please

Dominant

In Control

Sense of Freedom  

Oppressed

Very Liberal

Exploitive

Respectful

Expression of Desires  

Repressed

Rash

Obsessive

Moderate

Honesty  

Transparent

Ambiguous

Deceptive

Fair

Reason  

Data-Driven

Ignorant

Arrogant

Wise

Humour  

Nerdy

Silly/Absurd

Rude/Offensive

Tasteful

The Wussy is a man that has been neutered.  He’s become so reserved and self-loathing that he has essentially “given up” and is neither driven nor passionate (a passion for his X-Box doesn’t count). Many of these types are just plain losers with women and have no skills in dealing with the opposite sex. The qualities they possess are very needy ones and are fueled by insecurity.  Women are seldom attracted to The Wussy and men rarely respect them.

The Metrosexual is essentially a male that as been adversely affected by social pressures and Unisexification.  A woman would call him “a straight guy with style,” but I call him something else:  He is a man that’s decided that conforming to women’s demands and behaviors is the easiest way to win them over. But ultimately...  It doesn’t (read my metrosexuals article for more). He is typically a mamma’s boy (excessively attached to his mother or similar social figure or concept; lacking normal masculine interests) and by definition not gay, but acts that way.  One becomes a metrosexual either by a sudden revelation or by a process of slow cultural moulding, though typically the latter.  When you examine the spectrum of traits for The Metrosexual, his qualities closely resemble those of a woman. 

The Macho Man has a lot of qualities that can be attractive to women, but only because they are usually opposite qualities than women have.  Nevertheless, The Macho Man is similar to The Wussy as he is also motivated by insecurity.  But rather than being a pushover, he maintains a tough exterior to protect his weak, apprehensive self.  This man is often abusive and very selfish.  Criminals come to mind when you read his qualities, but there are a lot of regular guys who fit this category. The Macho Man may be hard to sniff out because he doesn’t behave this way all the time, especially not at work or around his family, but when alone with a woman he becomes imposing and oppressive, to make himself feel real tough when no one else is around to put him in his place.

When you read the qualities of The Real Man, you can easily paint a mental picture of the type of guy he is.  He is confident.  And actual confidence means that he has trust in himself.  The word derives from the latin form, confida, which means “with faith.”  Faith in oneself means that you believe in yourself, you stand up for what you believe in, while allowing others to do the same.  You can enjoy yourself, but you are not controlled by emotional impulses.  The Real Man is in control, but not controlling.  Makes sense, right?

Now what if you don’t fall into any of these categories?  Then you’re The Average Male, which will be across the board, so-to-speak, possessing a variety of traits and virtues from each of these categories.  But if you’re looking at the spectrum and are fumbling to place yourself, you might one to focus on one trait at a time and try to become more of a man with small, continuous improvement.  A priest at my church said recently:  "A real man is one that would do anything for his wife and children.  Anyone else is not a man, but simply a male."  I assure you that in order to feel like a man you must act like one.  If you’re a woman reading this and your boyfriend/spouse is not up to par, don’t panic:  Kindly slip this article into the Sports section of tomorrow’s paper and (if you’re lucky!) he’ll get the hint.

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